For the Crown That Raised Us

by Tania Banks May 10, 2025

 A Mother’s Day Tribute

This Mother's Day, we’re giving them their flowers. At Herbs & Oils Haircare, we know that our first lessons in beauty, resilience, and self-care often came from the women who raised us. From the kitchen sink wash days to that soft hum while greasing your scalp, those moments meant more than just hair they were love. Let’s honor the queens who taught us how to care for our crowns by pouring back into theirs.

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Haircare Passed Down: Crown Lessons from Our Mothers

There’s something sacred about the way our mothers, aunties, and grandmothers cared for our hair. Whether it was sitting between Mama’s knees while she parted your hair with that rattail comb, or watching Grandma whip up her favorite hair grease blend in the kitchen—it was more than just grooming. It was a ritual. A bond. A lesson in love.

I remember my mom doing our hair for school, always making sure we looked good for picture day. I remember dragging a kitchen chair to the sink so my grandma could wash my hair. The smell of Blue Magic filled the air as she parted my hair and greased my scalp with care. I remember getting our hair done on the porch on hot summer days while neighborhood kids played nearby. Our aunts and uncles would stop by, cracking jokes and catching up.

All my sisters would line up, one with a towel wrapped around her head from just getting washed, another taking down the last style, another helping grandma grease a scalp, and one in the chair getting styled. It was always a process. Sometimes chaotic, but a process we’ll never forget. We didn’t even realize at the time how special it was—how those small moments were actually big ones.

In the Black community, haircare has always been about more than looking good—it’s about pride, patience, and passing down traditions. I still do my kids’ hair to this day. Same process. I try to make it fun for them. They know when it’s hair day and what’s needed. But most of all, I treasure the time we spend together. That’s the part that means the most to me.

I started doing my own hair at just 9 years old. Our house felt like a full-blown salon—we were always doing hair! I think that’s why I fell in love with it. I started braiding my neighborhood friends’ and even my aunt’s and uncle’s hair out on the porch. I took in everything I could while doing it, and it became a part of me.

At Herbs & Oils Haircare, we honor those traditions by using clean, natural ingredients that echo those homemade remedies, but with a modern twist. It’s our way of keeping the legacy alive while giving today’s moms a moment to feel pampered, too. Because let’s be real those women gave us everything. It’s only right that we give back.

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A Self-Care Moment Just for Her

Let’s not forget, our mamas deserve rest. They deserve softness. They deserve to feel taken care of the same way they took care of us. And if your mom is no longer with you, give yourself a moment of rest. Find joy in the memories, and treat yourself the way she would have treated you.

We curated our product line with versatility in mind—so whether she’s rocking her natural curls, protective styles, locs, or a silk press, she can find something that nourishes her crown and her soul.

✨ The Tonic Spray is perfect for refreshing styles, detangling, and adding a moisture boost throughout the day (plus, it smells divine!).
✨ And don’t sleep on the Full Bodied Butter—that jar is head-to-toe luxury.

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Mother’s Day Hair Ritual: A Simple At-Home Treat

If you’re spending time with your mom this weekend, treat her to a mini wash day moment:

Step 1: Gently cleanse with our Naturally Bubbly Shampoo
Step 2: Follow up with our Top It Off Conditioner for softness and strength
Step 3: Towel-dry and spritz with The Tonic Spray
Step 4: Seal in moisture with our Last Call Finishing Oil or Full Bodied Butter
Step 5: Style, smile, and maybe even snap a selfie—because she’s glowing

This isn’t just about the products—it’s about showing her that her care, her time, and her love didn’t go unnoticed. We see her. We honor her.

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To All the Mamas—You Are the Blueprint

To the mothers, aunties, grandmas, godmothers, and every mother figure who stepped in with love—we thank you. You are the blueprint. You showed us what love looks like in action. You taught us how to care, how to keep going, and how to walk in our beauty unapologetically.

This Mother’s Day, let’s return that love. Let’s care for the crown that raised us.

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Shop our top picks for mom and give her the gift of nourishment—from root to soul.

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